I just need to write this so I don’t yell at my mom, who is currently fuming at me because I refused to support her immature behavior.
We were at the grocery store, and this older woman was being a bit rude because we had forgotten to bring a reusable bag (we live in a city that doesn’t distribute plastic bags anymore, so we need to bring a bag of our own to the grocers).
Usually, most people don’t bring a bag anyway and just put all their groceries in their cart. I do this, and so does my mother. This cashier, however, was pretty upset we hadn’t brought a reusable bag (though I can’t imagine why - it’s our business if we just want to put everything in the cart; many people do this and we’d never heard anyone say anything about it before), and the tone of voice which she used while speaking to us was frankly a bit challenging. I was a bit put off, but at no time did it cross my mind to make a big stink out of it.
My mother, however, decided it’d be good for her to talk to the manager about it.
My parents have always taught me to be empathetic, to show compassion. It never crossed my mind to make a big deal out of this lady’s behavior - much less go to her supervisor- because I don’t know this woman. I don’t know if she’s had a bad day, I don’t know if she took a nine-hour shift today and she’s so exhausted she can’t feel her feet, I don’t know what she’s worrying about, if she’s suffering financial troubles, if she has kids and if she’s worried about her ability to feed them, or what drove an older woman like her to take a minimum-wage job. I don’t know her circumstances. It’s not my place to butt into her life, either, or even worse, go to her boss and risk her job. I turn the other cheek, as I’ve been taught by my religion (which doesn’t play a HUGE role in my life, but it does inform a significant bit of my value system). It’s not “letting another person walk all over me”, as my mother callously pointed out - it’s simply assuming the good in people and assuming the cashier had a good reason to act the way she did.
I believe in karma; What goes around, comes around, and I hope in the future that if I’m having a bad day and accidentally snap at a customer at my job, the customer would be empathetic enough not to go to the manager.
Furthermore, my mother was furious at the woman, but I really didn’t see it as a big deal? As the famous quote notes, "No one can ruin your day without your permission."
I’m not saying I took the moral high ground here, or that I’m more moral as a person overall. My mother is a very understanding, patient woman. It was just out of character for her, and I can’t help but be a little disappointed?
Can’t wait for college to start up again.